Jung At Heart Archive December 2009

Year's End


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Today I am doing something I do every New Year's Eve -- reading my journal for the past year. A chance to revisit dreams, see the themes of the year and reflect on where I have been and where I want to go in my life this next year. That is my journal in the photo.

I am a big advocate of journal keeping. I started myself back in 1973. My original impetus was realizing I knew very little about my mother as a person, someone with a life and thoughts outside of mothering and children. So I had this idea that I could keep a journal and someday, preferably after I died, my children, then not yet born, would have the chance to see me as more three-dimensional. Along the way, my journal changed from looking outward at daily life to looking inward so that for the last 20 years or so it has been at least 90% centered on my inner life -- dreams, work with various issues in my life, reflections stemming from my analysis. 

My journals always have unlined paper which to me feels like it gives me the freedom for my handwriting size to vary and for the page to be organized in any way I like. I always write in fountain pen. I have tried keeping my journal on my computer but I always return to handwriting and a fountain pen. That's just me.

I recommend keeping a journal to all my patients. It provides a container for thoughts and therapy work outside of the therapy sessions, a place to reflect, to express emotions, record and work on dreams, to continue to work of the therapy. My bias is for a journal that is attractive to the journal writer. So I recommend finding a blank book that you like, something nicer than a steno book or spiral notebook. 


I'm glad my posts on termination were provocative to many of you. In the weeks ahead, I will be writing about how to choose a therapist, therapists and social networking sites and other topics. I hope you all will share your thoughts then too.

I hope you all have a Happy New Year!

Discussing THE CAVEMAN'S VALENTINE

I'm delighted to see that discussion has already begun on this film. Let me start by saying that I chose the film for the way paranoid schizophrenia is portrayed and in that, I accept that the plot itself is pretty ordinary. But it works reasonably well as a means to show us who Romulus is and how he functions.

This film does not romanticize madness. It does not give us the kind of happily ever after triumph over mental illness that many of us wish for. In the end, Romulus returns to his cave to live, refusing his daughter's offer of shelter. His madness is still what his life is about, as is most often the case with paranoid schizophrenia. It is hard for us to accept that someone like him would refuse help, refuse shelter and instead opt to live out on the margins, lacking stable relationships, housing and even food. But this is where the inner world of Romulus takes him, into the precarious security he is able to forge against the forces of his delusions and hallucinations. We see his moments of lucidity collapse again and again in the face of his persecutory delusions. And we see what is truly lost to his madness when we hear him play the piano.  Even when lucid, he is semi-hallucinatory, living in a dream-world in which his imaginary ex-wife represents his rational thoughts.  He cannot hold on to conversations without drifting into his internal world, and he turns every rumor he hears into fuel for his paranoia. He can barely concentrate enough to complete a sentence or a short piano piece. He destroys his credibility when he tells the police that the murder committed by Stuyvesant with death rays shot from the Chrysler Building. We see that he knows about his own problems, and works to fight them in order to stay on the trail.

Often there is a kernel of truth inside delusions and that is true here. Ledbetter makes strong social commentary but his madness, his paranoia is wound all through it. What might be a grain of paranoia in someone who rails against the system in Ledbetter becomes a persecutory system of death rays and terror directed at him. 

Roger Ebert gave this film one of its more positive reviews. You can read it here.

And now, let's talk about the film!

Psyche Goes to the Movies -- The Caveman's Valentine

Next up in our film series is The Caveman's Valentine. Samuel L. Jackson gives a virtuoso performance in this intensely visual suspense film. Jackson stars as Romulus Ledbetter, a brilliant musician whose mental demons have driven him onto the streets. When Ledbetter finds a murdered man outside the cave he calls home one morning, he is compelled to find the real killer. While interesting enough to hold the viewer's attention, the mystery of The Caveman's Valentine is pales compared to Jackson's performance and the film's sumptuous visuals. The film is gorgeously shot, and lights and abstract images are effectively used to show Romulus's beautiful but tormented inner world. This is perhaps the most compelling representation of the hallucinatory world of a paranoid schizophrenic yet seen in film. While the plot does have some holes, Romulus's illness and the strain it puts on his family are sensitively and realistically handled. His all-too-real run-ins with his policewoman daughter are nicely contrasted with his visions of his ex-wife, who serves as a combination of Greek chorus and muse.

The film will be shown in Belfast, ME at the Belfast Free Library on Dec. 13 at 4 pm. And discussed here starting December 14.

Dual Relationships

A commenter to one of the recent posts on termination mentioned dual relationships so it seems a good time to look at this issue.

The APA (American Psychological Association) has this to say in its code of ethics:

A multiple relationship occurs when a psychologist is in a professional role with a person and (1) at the same time is in another role with the same person, (2) at the same time is in a relationship with a person closely associated with or related to the person with whom the psychologist has the professional relationship, or (3) promises to enter into another relationship in the future with the person or a person closely associated with or related to the person.

A psychologist refrains from entering into a multiple relationship if the multiple relationship could reasonably be expected to impair the psychologist's objectivity, competence, or effectiveness in performing his or her functions as a psychologist, or otherwise risks exploitation or harm to the person with whom the professional relationship exists.

Multiple relationships that would not reasonably be expected to cause impairment or risk exploitation or harm are not unethical.

(b) If a psychologist finds that, due to unforeseen factors, a potentially harmful multiple relationship has arisen, the psychologist takes reasonable steps to resolve it with due regard for the best interests of the affected person and maximal compliance with the Ethics Code.

Note that dual relationships are not forbidden, though caution is urged. So those who advocate a very rigid policy prohibiting such relationships are not more ethical, they are just more rigid. For some this seems the best way to go. But such rigidity assumes that patients are capable of functioning only at the lowest level for relatedness and that any dual relationship is necessarily exploitive and harmful. It shouldn't be necessary, but I want to make it clear that I am talking only about non-sexual dual relationships. It certainly makes sense for example not to play tennis with a patient who suffers from borderline traits as such a person’s difficulty making sense sense of multiple roles going to cause problems. And one of our roles as therapists is to  work to understand the context, purpose and meaning of behavior.

There is a trend in our culture toward attempting to codify ethical behavior through an ever more detailed set of rules and guidelines. But this comes at the dangerous expense of ignoring the fundamental component of ethics, that of setting one's own ethical compass by holding to a clear sense of what is right, what is good and what is moral and ethical. This only comes from being challenged to think critically, good clinical supervision, and strong focus on inculcating the ethical values of the profession. The ethical life is not simply the result of rigidly following rules. The ethical life is a matter of trying to determine the kind of person I should be and of attending to the development of character within myself and my community.

So, an acquaintance, someone I know slightly socially, calls and wants to see me in therapy. What do I say? My stance is that I agree to an initial appointment and within that session we look at possible complications arising from our other relationship and new limits and boundaries that therapy will create. And make it clear that these issues may arise again at different points in our work and when they do, we can and will work through them. In a large city, this issue could be handled by referring the acquaintance to another therapist but in rural areas, this is not always possible or desirable.

Aware of the power issues in a therapy relationship, issues which make any request I make inevitably create conflict, however minor, I try to avoid initiating any dual relationships with my patients. Were I working with a patient who is a plumber, I would not call that person if I needed plumbing services. It just gets too complicated. Nor would I ask a patient to edit a paper I wrote or collaborate on a project. Only when the other can feel free to refuse can such requests work. At least that is how I see it.

But what if my landlord wanted to see me in therapy? Is that okay? Or my physician? Is it all right for a student to seek therapy from a therapist who is also her instructor? 

The only way I know to decide such cases is to keep in mind the best interests of the patient and the therapy. Anything which threatens either the patient or the therapy at the very least needs to be thoroughly explored and discussed, if not avoided altogether. What does a request like one of those above mean to the prospective patient? What are the potential complications? How willing is the prospective patient to look at these issues and explore them? What are the possible negative consequences if the therapy is agreed to? 


Can This Marriage Be Saved?

When I was growing up, we always had lots of magazines around the house. One of them, Ladies Home Journal, had a feature every month called "Can This Marriage Be Saved?". I read it avidly, hoping, I must admit, that this month would be the hopeless case, the marriage that could not be saved. We could conjecture about the source of my curiosity and my rather dark wish, but that is for another time and place.

I have never enjoyed working with couples myself. In the 70's and 80's I took a number of workshops and seminars on marital therapy and couples therapy thinking maybe it was a matter of finding the method that would appeal to me but I have always found working with a couple entails more people in the room that I enjoy. When I read John Sanford's  The Invisible Partners, I understood why that was so for me. So I have never enjoyed working with couples and rarely do so. And I appreciate those couples therapists that I know who are really good at their work.

In today's NY Times Magazine, there is a long and excellent article on marriage and whether or not the variety of marriage therapies can make a good enough marriage better. And I really like this concluding thought:

In psychiatry, the term “good-enough mother” describes the parent who loves her child well enough for him to grow into an emotionally healthy adult. The goal is mental health, defined as the fortitude and flexibility to live one’s own life — not happiness. This is a crucial distinction. Similarly the “good-enough marriage” is characterized by its capacity to allow spouses to keep growing, to afford them the strength and bravery required to face the world.

It's a good article and worth your time to read it.


Passive Income or Hucksterism?

Several years ago I toyed with adding personal coaching as a service I offered. I spent time learning about coaching, reading, doing some classes and looking at a lot of material aimed at coaches. And I opted not to be a part of that field. I was concerned about several things -- too little distinction made between therapy and coaching (a concern because of the very low level of training in psychology required in coach training programs), the focus on sales, and the very high percentage of coaching practices aimed at selling to other coaches. It wasn't for me.

And one of the things that bothered me most was what felt to me like hard sell hucksterism -- devising products to sell on one's website to produce so-called "passive income". This passive income stream, it is claimed, can easily surpass what can be earned in actual work with clients. So it's this set of CDs for the bargain price of $395.00 or that ebook for just $15.00 and so on and on.

I am probably reflecting a certain professional conservatism here. After all when I started out, advertising was verboten to therapists except for discreet single line ads in the Yellow Pages. I am put off by physicians who try to sell me a line of vitamins or supplements or some other product, never covered by insurance, that produces this kind of income stream for them. It just does not sit well with me.

So, it should be no surprise that I have not considered doing any of this in my practice. The articles I have available are free as will any additional ones that I upload be. I do not offer a free consultation for the first hour -- because I believe that the work of therapy begins with the first contact and that first hour is a part of the therapy. 

Elizabeth Thomaswrites about this issue this week in her blog. Take a look, leave a comment here or there. 

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